20 years in the past. When not even the phrase “harassment” was in our vocabulary as a result of that conduct, criminally typified on the time, was a social customized, accepted by all, circulated freely by the College, non-public firms, teams of pals, households and even … on the town halls.
20 years in the past. I keep in mind completely. I didn’t hear the voice of any girl, particularly those that crowded, virulent, on the door of the Ponferrada Metropolis Corridor, shouting and pointing an accusing finger at Nevenka Fernández, the good traitor, the consenting, the whore.
20 years in the past. On these steps of the City Corridor … a girl, microphone in her mouth, blurted out that “if I say no, it is no and that does not occur to me.” The woman was the voice of many generations, silent and accustomed to heroic acts, in all probability educated (or impolite) in non secular icons of the Santa Maria Goretti fashion. Die to your virginity and go down in historical past. For instance. That inherited contamination, that emotional corset of all of the Nevenkas on this planet.
20 years in the past. When it was discovered that that 26-year-old girl, crushed, heartbroken and emaciated, blurted out that “I’ve to say it, as a result of I am 26 years outdated and have dignity. Dignity hitherto measured by the male measuring stick. You achieve this a lot, you might be price a lot, otherwise you do it or you aren’t. And the scourge of insulting youth, the fantastic thing about his innocence or the audacity of getting yielded to the pretensions of the mayor (or another person), which was patent of marque to not complain later. “He should have completed one thing.”
20 years in the past. When a womanizing man was nonetheless a person (of those that gown by the ft, one thing that I’ve by no means been in a position to perceive). When an unbiased, decided, decided girl places the brakes on and society burns her alive. This appeared just like the Inquisition. The lady who dared to offer a press convention, trembling and seized with atrocious concern, understanding that the gesture would condemn her. The person. This man, all these males, satisfied that his conduct was virtually exemplary.
20 years in the past. Even now, many people don’t settle for that a few of us, as a consequence of training, submission, misunderstood courtesy, have succumbed to inappropriate relationships, to the yoke in your will, to the crucial of the alpha male, fortunately transformed, as we speak, right into a low depth male however with many prejudices and lots of edges and lots of distances.
20 years in the past. Nevenka. He didn’t want English phrases. He had no references. He launched himself and mentioned it: if I converse, I’ll proceed residing, I’ll get out of this hell. As the author Rosa Montero says, then, otherwise you had been a nun, or a widow or a whore. Or married, which is to say, married as a result of I’ve no different.
20 years in the past. Looks as if yesterday. That man was convicted. And she or he too: one thing can have completed, this one desires to get a slice. That is what we, the traitors within the Nevenka case, mentioned.
And that’s the reason it’s referred to as “the Nevenka case”, with a girl’s identify. Like Eva and the apple. Just like the lady from Sanfermines. Like within the White Home, the place oral intercourse has a girl’s identify. Like every little thing. Or virtually every little thing, even hurricanes or storms.
20 years in the past. Right now, we are able to say “#Me Too”, “#me too”. Nevenka could not say “too.” She was alone and that can be our particular person and social debt, properly deserved, resting there, in our burned and false conscience.
20 years in the past. It isn’t a matter of no or sure, that too. It is one other factor that ought to by no means have a girl’s identify.
To all those that had been silent, died or received misplaced alongside the way in which, those that spoke and people who ordered to be silent. To all of you, thanks.